Two weeks ago, we met with this married couple. They are helping us in our marriage. We discussed open and honest communication and how important it is and then even practiced it.
Now the wife in that couple, who my wife has spent a lot of time together with lately, is telling me that my wife wants me to pursue her even as she is pushing me away. I’m supposed to talk to her even though she is constantly avoiding me. I say I love you and I get no response. She walks upstairs to bed without saying a single word to me. She lays in bed facing the other direction, ignoring me when I leave for work so she doesn’t have to see me.
Am I crazy? Doesn’t that sound the OPPOSITE of honest and open communication? How can this be the recommendation?
Now, I can get behind irrational thoughts and behavior-I mean, I’m the king of that. So are we saying that she is no longer rational? Is that what I’m dealing with here? Or is this just some kind of strange twilight zone kind of test?
I’m so confused. Confused and a little bitter because when I’m in the shoes she’s in, (riddled with anxiety and full of depression), I’m still expected to be open and honest and tell my feelings.
Whatever. I’ll keep chugging along.
Also, please, If you are reading this and feel the need to comment, only comment with positive words. I use this blog as a journal and I have no problem turning off comments. I only allow it to be a public journal so if someone out there is experiencing the same things I am, they can feel that they are not alone.
p.s. I’m starting up the Gratitude Journal again…probably tomorrow.